With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, I figured now is the perfect time to share with you guys the story of how I met my boyfriend Adrian, aka “Bumble guy” (as I referred to him for many months before admitting he was my boyfriend). For those of you who don’t know, Bumble is an online dating app where the girl makes the first move. This means that the girl is in control, so if both me and a guy swipes right, then I have to message the guy first in order to start a conversation. I really liked this approach because it gives the girl all the power, and I don’t have to worry about fending off unwanted advances from guys I’m not interested in. So the kicker to this story is that when I went on Bumble, I was not looking for a relationship at all. I had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship with my ex who I lived with, and I was honestly speaking just looking for a hot hook-up. I went on Bumble last August, 2 months into my newly single life. I have to say that I enjoyed being on Bumble, it was fun messaging guys and coming up with clever pick-up lines. Because of my intentions of just wanting a hook-up, I was less inhibited to message guys I normally would not have messaged. I know that online dating can be tough, but Adrian was actually the first (and last) guy I went on a date with on Bumble.
When I saw Adrian’s photos and profile, I immediately knew that I would totally hook-up with him. I know that’s pretty shallow, but I was clear in my intentions and what I wanted. The first piece of information on his profile was that he’s 6’4”, so I sent him a message along the lines of “so does being 6’4 define your existence?” Of course he wrote back with a clever reply saying that it does when he’s on an online dating app. Hence we began a flirty, lighthearted conversation. At some point early on, he managed to get my number and we switched to text message. He sent me a video of him playing guitar, and I sent him a nonchalant selfie of myself. I’m not one to beat around the bush, so pretty soon we had a date set for next weekend. I went into the date with no expectations: I knew that I would be open to hooking up the first night, but also knew that things could go terribly and we could not get along at all. The first date definitely turned out to be more than I expected. I’ll just say that we met up at 5PM and the date ended the next day at 10AM. So this is where the story probably should have ended if I had followed my original intentions. However, of course things don’t always happen the way you expect them to, and sometimes that works out for the better.
After our first date, I was still adamantly convinced that I did not want a relationship. However, I continued to see Adrian quite frequently (at least once a week), and slowly things started to escalate. He treated me differently than other guys that I’d been with. Maybe it was because of my nonchalant mentality, but it felt like he genuinely liked me for who I am. I didn’t have to second guess whether or not he wanted to see me, and I just felt so happy and carefree with him. I liked that he would take the initiative with everything, from planning dates to inviting me to meet his friends and family. When he invited me to his parent’s house for Christmas, that’s when I finally admitted (to myself) that he was my boyfriend. So online dating apps can work, but I think a big part of it is your mentality and attitude towards it. I think going in with no expectations helps you both be yourself and not be disappointed if things don’t work out. I’ve always enjoyed online dating and the excitement and mystery of meeting someone new for the first time (I actually met my ex on an online dating app as well). I’m not great with meeting people normally as I’m not really that social outside of blogging events, which is all girls. So online dating apps became the best way for me to meet men. I have to say that I was impressed by the quality of guys I saw on Bumble, there are some super attractive men out there ladies!
Now a little bit about this Valentine’s Day shoot. We decided to shoot it in front of Cobble Hill Cinemas as one of our favorite things to do is going to the movies. Adrian is a HUGE movie buff, so we go to the movies fairly often. For my outfit, I went with a pink velvet dress from Mint Julep Boutique, layered over a turtleneck for warmth. I accessorized with a red bag, tall suede boots, and a red heart ring from Shop LC. For Adrian, we decided on a red bowtie and nice button-down shirt. We added a fancy touch for Valentine’s Day with cuff links from Shop LC.
Thanks for reading,